Our Babies
Luke and Claire
"Welcome to Holland"
By Emily Perl Kingsley, 1987. All rights reserved.
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away...because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss. But...if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Monday, December 20, 2010
'Tis the Season....for chaos
Speaking of graduation - The chaos of the last 6 months is FINALLY over! Patrick is officially a Weapons School graduate. It was a long 6 months of intense training 6 days a week (with super long days), but he finally made it. Luckily, Grandpa and Grandma Godinez were able to come spend a few days in Shreveport to spoil Luke so I could enjoy Vegas baby-free. It was a fabulous reward after all the long hours and time away from each other.
Well, the fun didn't get to last too long because I had a large work project which started the day after I returned from Vegas. I can officially say that I work for an official business because we passed our audit from the American Petroleum Institute. Other than the last day of my first year of teaching (which was the biggest relief in life), this was probably the most epic day professionally for me. Although I loved teaching, it was fun to write our technical manual, see it come to life, and have it audited and approved on my first try.
Now, we don't know what we'll do with ourselves. Patrick is on leave, Christmas shopping is almost done, my finals are turned in, and other than a short trip to Kansas for Christmas, our lives are wide-open.....You know us; this probably won't last :)
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
My favorite time of day....
Saturday, December 4, 2010
Busy Lazy Weekend
Sorry it has been a few days since the last post. It's been busy around our house since all of our Thanksgiving company left. Patrick is wrapping up his LAST week of Weapons School out in Vegas...FINALLY! Since graduation is next weekend, I have extra incentive to clean, finish finals, wrap up work projects, etc. I'll head out to Vegas on Thursday, and Grandpa and Grandma Godinez will be here Wednesday to spend the weekend with Luke! I'm sure they're excited to not have to share the baby with a single person for an entire weekend :) Luke is counting down the days until he gets spoiled again. In the meantime, he's working very hard on sitting up, and we're soooooo close to having it figured out!
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Best Buds
Monday, November 15, 2010
Daddy is Home!!
Happy Side Note: Patrick passed his physical fitness test today!!!
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Luke's First Road Trip
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Baby Professor
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Happy Halloween
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Sunday, October 24, 2010
For our classroom friends....
Keep the questions coming!