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Luke and Claire

"Welcome to Holland"


By Emily Perl Kingsley, 1987. All rights reserved.


I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away...because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss. But...if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.

Sunday, July 14, 2013

July?? Really???


Where is 2013 going? Weren't we just getting ready to head to Hawaii to see Patrick? Summer is flying by, but we're happy to report that life is still nice and quiet. We have still been on the road quite a bit to see doctors for Claire in Little Rock and Dallas; however, we can't complain too much because we have been consistently receiving good news. Our latest trip was to an opthamologist with Cook's Children's Hospital in Ft. Worth. Our doctor in Hawaii had mentioned her small optic nerve, but at the time, we didn't think much of it. Well, when her most recent MRI not only showed a smaller than normal brain, it also showed a small optic nerve. So, back to opthamology we went! Fortunately, although Claire is considered to have Optic Nerve Dysplagia (fancy name for small optic nerve), the doctor is very encouraged by her vision. We'll re-evaluate in 4 months to see if glasses and/or surgery could potentially improve her vision.  Cross your fingers that we'll at least be able to obtain some form of correction. As far as the long-term impact, we have no idea how her vision will be impacted.

Sine all of the time on the road is exhausting for Claire (and the rest of us), we have finally decided to stop rushing around from one appointment to the next. For example, last week Patrick and I both took the entire day off on Thursday for travel instead of leaving after lunch and squeezing in a 1/2 day of work. This made all of the difference because the kids travelled much better which meant far less stressed parents. We stayed at The Gaylord, one of our favorite hotels, and enjoyed lounging in the lazy river after a long morning of travel. Luke LOVED the lazy river (just like his momma), but princess Claire wasn't sure what she thought about the cold water on her toes, so she just snuggled with daddy on the chairs. Despite a thunderstorm cutting our time a bit short, we had a great time. The storm was actually a good thing because we were showered, dressed, ate dinner on the property, and were back in the room and ready for bed nice and early since Claire's appointment was first thing in the morning.

Other than getting the good news in Ft. Worth that Claire's vision was better than they had anticipated, we have just been having a nice, relaxing summer (which explains the lack of posts!). Each day Claire seems just a little bit stronger and has the endurance to play longer without rest, and her favorite thing to do is watch crazy brother Luke run around the house with his crazy imagination. Who knows what is so exciting in his mind, but whatever it is sure must be awesome. He loves to pretend talk on the phone, play with his new kitchen, or swim in the backyard. Although Claire isn't a fan of the heat, she sure does love watching tv or rocking on the airplane rocker with her big brother!



 Lunch is over already!??!?

 Lazy Sunday mornings in bed.

 The leg braces (and big brother) are helping Claire learn to balance on her legs!!

 Although Luke has a play kitchen, he insists on helping cook. Luckily, he has lots of opportunities since Mommy has become obsessed with Pintrest.

 Claire has to sit in the high chair to play so big brother doesn't steal her toys.

 But playing is exhausting, and sometimes she just needs a good nap.

 Like I mentioned, Luke LOVED the lazy river!

 And he even thought he should order a tropical drink after swimming.

 Claire, on the other hand, just wanted to let her hair blow in the breeze.


Weeeeeeeeeeeeeee.......If you saw how hard Luke had been rocking this thing, you would understand why Claire is making this petrified face :)